Anger Management, Hatred… blah blah blah!

A random thought that I felt I should pen down, atleast for my own sake! Will be a good reminder if I go through one of those days again where I begin to hate myself, or my friends or any near and dear once for a decision they made for me!

I penned a quote on my FB status about Anger/Hatred, emotions that are symbolized by the use of fire! Pretty symbolic if you ask me, considering that the angst may give you a feeling of warmth for sometime but will eventually burn you down if kept within. However if constructively used, its a potent tool!

Similarly, the anger, the hatred are emotions that will only drain you eventually… unless you begin to use them constructively!

Have you ever been in that situation where you think that you erred because of someones advice? Or if you blindly trusted someone? Or if someone forced their decision onto you?
It hurts- doesn’t it?
But give it a thought, this time from a slightly different perspective:
– you opted to ask for advice and (worse) live by it
– you chose to have faith (worse) blind faith
– you didn’t have an option or was a pushover to let someone else decide things for you!

Common, now stop thinking “what the hell, its a useless rant, and what does this kid know about hardships” and blah blah blah.

The fact of the day remains that you are burning yourself down by giving the emotion or in some contexts the situation a lot more importance than it (now) deserves.

I remember a funny line: its not my mistake if I was born to a poor father, but I guess I can only blame myself if my father in law is poor!

So why should you blame it on a person when you thought that opting for their advice made more sense.
Plotting it on a tree diagram, there are only two outcomes out of the advice. Either it works extremely well in your favour, or its a disaster. In such a case, chances are that since you have given so much of emotional weightage to that decision, you end up complaining/cursing the one who had adviced you about it.

Now thats a classic case of giving more important to the situation(current or otherwise) than the person willing to give you some advice, and you yourself opting NOT to think or stand by the advice by utmost faith and blame the outcome onto someone/something!

Have you heard the track: “wear sunscreen” yet?
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Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
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Pretty well said! Hear that song, its a must have song. In that geeky device of yours!
Back to the topic:
Yes you were stupid, unfortunate and blah blah blah that shit happened to you, but Hullo its your prerogative to clean up and come out of the mess!

May be its time to say, well yeah I was stupid to trust you or I think I should have given it a thought too, or what the heck you adviced, but it was my decision and so let me face it and own it!

Or may be its time to say, yeah I wasn’t in a position to chose for myself, so what! May be I can fix it now! May be I can do it in a better form now or sometime soon!

Hatred Hurts, love doesn’t!